追思

我們為每一位與病魔博鬥的親友加油打氣。

先走一步的親友，當是到了更好的地方，開始另一段旅程。
思念他們的同時，也知道自己在人世的任務未了，必須保重，善待自己。

請大家互相提醒，共勉之。 
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In memory of our beloved friend, 陶輝禮 (Willie Tao).

From: Shen,Gwo-Chyau
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, August 27, 2007 8:44 AM
Subject: RE: [NTUChE79] Information on Hui-Li's memorial service

I was wondering if Willie really had stomach ulcer? In other words,
could it have been the misdiagnosis that eventually led to his death?

We're always told to trust our doctors completely. However, based on my personal experiences and what happened to some of my friends and relatives, I would say that often time second and/or third opinion are
equally important, especially when you don't feel 100% assured of the first diagnosis.

沈國喬

From: monwei
Sent: Tuesday, August 28, 2007 12:49 AM
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Subject: Re: [NTUChE79] Information on Hui-Li's memorial service

I feel very sorry to hear Hui-Li's pass away. I always remember Hui-Li's big smile appearing on his face constantly.

I think his doctor should be blamed first. If Hui-Li had a routine physical check up, his doctor should have been easily able to warn him that he may have one or all  3  highs, high blood pressure, high cholesterol;, high blood sugar. Either one of  three highs would cause stroke and heart attack.  And these are easy to be treated by medicine, exercise and diet. They will not go away unless you deal with it. Or if the situation is out of control, the doctors can always put stems on his heart or put by-pass. The other symptom such as stomach ulcer caused by H. Pylori can be treated  by taking antibiotics. If you ignore the ulcer, it could become cancer sooner or later. 

When you are over 50, you should have prostate check-up (PSI level) and colonoscopy. The colonoscopy needs to done by good experienced GI doctor. I have heard horrible story that people colons got penetrated by stupid doctors during the procedure and almost die.  If your PSI level is too high, your urologist doctor will do a biopsy from your prostate. Don't get panic, if the lab identify as a cancer cell. You should always have second opinion from another pathologist of other lab to affirm that. You had better go to big hospital to do these procedures. Don't think it's only a "test". It's a really a serious procedure and a very important first step to find anything wrong with it. If the first diagnosis is wrong, all the sub-sequences afterwards will be all wrong.

Finally, we have to deal with " Stress ". Stress could be mitigated through Chi-Gone as suggested by Chen Yi-Hwa or Yoga or religions. If you can not deal with it and have depression, you need to see psychologist or psychiatry doctor. 

I believe that  to maintain a good family relationship is more important than anything else such as your careers and business. People just ignore the easiest and most valuable  things surrounding them and regret when they lose them all.

Monwei Lin (林孟緯)

From: Hsu, Jay
Sent: Wednesday, August 29, 2007 7:45 PM
To: 林莉
Subject: RE: Directory of 1979 NTUChE

Thanks for setting this up for us.  I have updated my information in the attached.  Please express my condolence to 陶 family.

Jay  Hsu (許介龍)

From: Yu-Hung Liu
Sent: Saturday, September 01, 2007 5:39 PM
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Subject: RE: FW: [NTUChE79] FW: Directory of 1979 NTUChE

Sorry that I did not know that we need to update the spreadsheet till I read Chen, Wu's message.

I visited with Charlene, Wife of Hui-Li, this morning. I'd like to share with you the hour we spent together and convey Charlene's message to all 1979NTUChE:

Charlene message first: She enjoyed that so many classmates, most of them she never had the chance to meet, e.g. me, poured into her life since Willie passed away.

If you have time, give her a call between 8:30 am and 10:30am, Taipei time, after she finishes changing the fruit and cleaning up the altar, to share with her the Willie you know and cheer her up.

Charlene shared her change from the hopeful to despair in the last hour of Willie's life. He just had a close to perfection physical exam report in June. She had been the boss of the family all the time with the absolute support from Willie. Not even once did Willie deny her requests/suggestions. She realizes now that all her strength was from Willie. Willie was a piece of 'big toy' for her and their son. Willie couldn't adore or spoil his son more by playing all sorts of sports with him, at his 'older' age and 'less' energy.

They have been conducting the Tao's Kissing Ceremony since the birth of their son till Willie's last night. Charlene would kiss their son good night, then Willie would kiss their son good night, finally Charlene and Willie would kiss each other by the boy's bed. Their son remained tough right after the departure of Willie till one night he asked Charlene if there would be no more Tao's kissing ceremony.

Being part of the nerdy group in NTU, I could see Willie, the opposite end from the nerdy, as a perfect husband, dad, and kisser ............

Give Charlene a call

劉有鴻

From: Adam Chen
Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2007 9:31 PM
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Subject: RE: FW: [NTUChE79] FW: Directory of 1979 NTUChE

I have been communicating with Willie's brother, Wess, the last few days.  He asked me to post a message for his sister-in-law Charlene. If you have any words for Willie, she will put the words in a small card and burn it while Willie is being cremated. This is a good idea since most of us cannot attend the memorial service, as much as we want to.

I asked Wess for Charlene's e-mail address so you and I can send our parting words to her. Will pass on her e-mail address as soon as I get it.

陳問理

From: Ye-Hwa Chen
Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2007 9:20 PM
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [NTUChE79] Charlene

I called Charlene, Hui-Li's wife, yesterday. We talked about Hui-Li, his son, and his mother. From my observation, Charlene needs a lot of time to recover.

She asked me to convey her appreciation for your concern. She also asked us to watch the health. Life seems so fragile and yet we need to try the best to stay strong for others may count on us.

Hui-Li will be cremated and the ashes will be kept in the same cemetery where his father was buried (who passed away 4 years ago).

I mentioned that some classmates expressed condolences on this forum, she asked if she could take a look at them. Stanley, is it possible you add her name on this yahoogroup so that she can have access to the old files? These may be a vehicle to comfort her. .......................

Once you are done, either you or I can send an e-mail to let her know.

For the rest of us, if you can not call her directly, perhaps leaving few words on the forum (or sending her an e-mail directly) may also help her to go through this very difficult time. Thanks very much.

Ye-Hwa (陳義華)

From: James
Sent: Thursday, September 06, 2007 12:14 PM
To: NTUChE79@yahoogroups.com
Subject: Re: [NTUChE79] New file uploaded to NTUChE79

Hello, everyone

This is Jaing Li (645418).

I've been following everyone's response on this sad news.

This morning, Chung, Li-Hang (645426) and I took the time to go to Hui-li's old house. We met with his mother and his youngest brother. We talked a lot about the good old days.

We then went to Hui-li's residence and met with his wife, Charlenee. We also paid our respect with incence to Hui-li.

It is a pity that we have been having get-together parties in Taipei and we've missed Hui-li and his families. I promised Charlenee that we will invite her and her son to join us next time.

Just so all of you know that Both Mrs. Tao are doing fine. They are both strong ladies.

江    理

日期  2007/9/4 上午 10:57  
主旨  obituary notice of Hui-Li

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From: Tony Chan
Date: 2007/9/5 上午 9:24
Subject: Re: obituary notice of Hui-Li
To:  (略)

願輝禮早生淨土, 花開見佛!

陳柏亮